It takes two to tango. Power struggle involves not just children but their "approval junkie" parents as well. Instead of trust and cooperation between parents and children, power struggles are associated with forced compliance and rebellion. These struggles are a huge disturbance in any household, draining all the positive energies out of the children and parents alike, imparting bitterness and exhaustion.
The only reason why this struggle persists is that parents heed attention to what their children say, not what they mean. They keep on insisting on dictatorial compliance without negotiating with the kids, this situation causes problems, manifesting in the form of rebellion and disobedience. Kids use the arsenal at hand, that is, their ability to annoy and importune in order to meet or protest their demands.
These struggles prove to be disastrous and acrimonious for the family environment, causing stress, agony, fatigue and weariness for all the members of the household. Constant scolding and yelling leads to improper brain development of the children. Power drunk children cannot focus in studies and sports and might get vulnerable to disorders like ADHD. These struggles causes distrust among the family and cause psychological and mental stresses and complications for parents and children alike. Parents feel embarrassed to take their children to guest's place or restaurants dupe to the fear of outbursts and misbehaviour from their children, lack of recreation leads to much severe consequences.
In order to tackle this issue, parents must understand that half of the problem can be solved if they themselves resort to negotiation and calm while dealing with issues.
They must undergo anger management techniques and calming techniques like deep breathing and meditation. By doing so, parents will be able to control the situation much easily. They must divide the root problem into various steps and deal with one aspect at a time. To get in control, they must create the environment of friendliness and cooperation, in which a child doesn't feel agitated and being controlled, rather, he feels like a team player on a mission. Conquer the tasks together, be it simple as doing homework or making bed.
In this way, by creating an environment of friendliness, trust, friendship and cooperation, you can easily mould the behaviour of children and get them to do what you want and maintain the discipline and positive atmosphere at home. Because when it comes to family, cooperation and teamwork is the essence in the environment of trust and friendliness to strengthen the bond between the members.
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