Aggression in humans can most easily be defined as a state of practicing harmful behaviour usually unintentionally with the possible aspect of inflicting damage to others. to put it in terms of behavioural sciences, anything that delivers a state of uneasiness, deviation from behaviour that is considered normal to individuals, often termed as a state of being predatory, and that delivers uneasiness especially to the ones in close social circle is termed as aggression. It isn't necessary that aggression be communicated physically, rather in today's social perspective, it is often expressed verbally. In children, most importantly, these early warning signs are often missed and parents regard it as not being able to see it coming or 'why couldn’t we seize the opportunity and rectify it in the first place?'
Violent behavior or aggression in children is normal. A child may be aggressive when he feels that his needs are not being met, signaling emotional vibes, and deviation from normal behavior or even fear from peer pressure at school (bullied, as we'd like to call it). Or the aggression may even arise from the fact that the child feels deprived of a social status or even weakness in academics. The mentioned factors are just to name a few. There can be a wide array of problems but all of them need timely attention from parents in order for the problem to be rectified. It is safe to say that aggression in children should never be stressed by parents. Rather it should be considered as a normal part of cognitive vs social development. But yes, aggression in children does needs to be channeled properly and skills like learning from mistakes and consequences of aggression should be taught.
As for a process of rectification, parents need to understand that aggression is a normal part of cognitive development in children. So, the judgment errors of stereotyping should be avoided.
Try to be as close to your child as possible. Spend a good deal of time in getting to know him and try to learn the patterns in his behaviour, thereby spotting deviations. Cues like violence and aggression in their activities e.g. drawing, colouring, etc. provide valuable insights.
Some people people often regard it as behavior modification. Try to learn what your child like and deviate his attention from when he pursues violence which could be from peer pressure in school, etc.
Finally, as I have mentioned earlier, view these possible or multiple signs of aggression in a developmental context, not as something to be troubled of. It is a necessary part of cognitive development and some signs of aggression are there, even in the healthiest and happiest of humans.
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