Children are not always the source of joy and fun. While, sometimes we do adore them for rolling their eyes and angrily slamming the doors, other times it takes an extreme violent turn and your child repeatedly hits you and shouts. While getting angry occasionally is normal in growing kids, but if your child is disrespectful more often and you are getting complaints from his school for misbehaving and is not even sorry for his behaviour then you must start using some smart and practical ways to treat them.
Act and not teach or preach:
There is a famous saying that your child will follow your example and not your advice. That works best when parents use it as a way of instilling certain values in their kids. Your child might be learning disrespect from you. If you forget to bring your child his favourite candy, then tell him you are sorry and give him a reason for not being able to do so. This will make your child learn to be sorry when they do something wrong. Moreover, do not use any disrespectful verbal or nonverbal method to treat anyone in front of your child so that he learns to treat others with respect like you do. Do not shout in anger because there is no reason that he won’t imitate you.
Do not react instantly:
Whenever your child becomes angry and starts being disrespectful, try to calm him down instead of taking an ardent step right away. Some problems can be best dealt with patience and calmness instead of in the spur of the moment. When your child is being insolent, he must be very angry and hyper, it will make you angry and hyper too. This means that you both are not thinking straight. You must stay calm and let your child cool down. Later on, you should go for a serious talk with your child, telling him his mistake and asking him the reason. You must dig deeper into the problem by a detailed conversation with your child which will surely make you understand the underlying cause of his behavior.
Consequence of the action:
Make sure that you establish this with your child that if he behaves well, he will be rewarded but if he becomes disrespectful, he will be punished. Punishment should not be severe as it instigates violence in your child. It can simply be taking away his favorite toy and telling him that if he behaves well, he will earn it back. Make sure that you stay consistent with this strategy and do not take any misbehavior lightly. This will send your child a sign that it is sometimes ok to be disrespectful and he won’t learn anything at all.
Moreover there are certain TV programs or violent games that trigger violent behavior in kids. Make sure that you keep a check on what your child is watching on TV or online. Do not give him your smartphones or tech devices without parental controls or supervision.
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